{"id":2627,"date":"2018-02-14T10:00:34","date_gmt":"2018-02-14T10:00:34","guid":{"rendered":"\/blog\/?p=2627"},"modified":"2025-06-29T09:48:51","modified_gmt":"2025-06-29T09:48:51","slug":"creating-meaningful-conversations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\/blog\/creating-meaningful-conversations\/","title":{"rendered":"52 Questions to Bring You Closer Together"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When\u2019s the last time you had a meaningful conversation? Or deepened your relationship with <\/span>someone in your life<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">? Knowing how to have a deep conversation isn&#8217;t easy. That said, diving into deep topics\u2014<\/span>whether <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\/renters\/explained\/next-step-in-relationship-survey\/\">with a romantic partner<\/a> or a friend<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2014is crucial to maintaining an intimate connection.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In an experiment, social psychologist Arthur Aron found that pairs who discussed \u2018deep questions\u2019 were much more likely to maintain their level of connection than those who kept to small talk. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"555\" src=\"\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/conversation-1024x555.png\" alt=\"52 Questions For Deeper Conversations - Lemonade Blog\" class=\"wp-image-2628\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/conversation-1024x555.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/conversation-300x163.png 300w, https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/conversation-768x416.png 768w, https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/conversation.png 1123w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Since relationships are undoubtedly one of the most important aspects of our lives, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\">Lemonade<\/a> decided to examine several psychological studies, and figure out which conversation topics foster closeness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>From there, we created a list of 52 questions that can scientifically foster intimacy between you and your partner, <a href=\"\/blog\/boost-your-roommate-relationship\/\">roommate<\/a>, or friend\u2014one for every week of the year!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ritualize deep conversation<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Looking for deep things to talk about with your significant other? You&#8217;re in luck.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We suggest creating a weekly ritual of asking these questions &#8211; try it on a Friday night to recap the week. You can spiral off into other topics, but the point is to start a real conversation, and learn more about your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n<div id=\"article-cta-block_611d212054ff0\" class=\"article-cta aligncenter\">\n    <p class=\"article-cta-text\">And don&#8217;t forget to ask: Are all the things I care about covered by Lemonade?<\/p>\n    <a class=\"article-cta-button content_article_cta\" data-track=\"content_article.cta.clicked\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\/onboarding\/1\">APPLY NOW<\/a>\n    <style type=\"text\/css\">\n        #article-cta-block_611d212054ff0 {\n            height: 80px;\n            width: 100%;\n            max-width: 700px;\n            display: flex;\n            flex-flow: row;\n            align-items: center;\n            justify-content: space-around;\n            background: #F7F7F7;\n            border: 1px solid #ECECEC;\n            border-radius: 5px;\n            padding: 15px 15px 15px 30px!important;\n            cursor: pointer;\n        }\n\n        .article-cta-text {\n            width: 100%;\n            max-width: 450px;\n            display: flex;\n            font: 700 20px\/28px \"Lato\", \"Helvetica Neue\", Arial, sans-serif!important;\n            margin: 25px 0 25px!important;\n            text-align: left;\n        }\n\n        .article-cta-button {\n            display: flex;\n            align-items: center;\n            justify-content: center;\n            height: 47px;\n            width: 212px;\n            padding: 0px 25px;\n            box-shadow: 0 4px 8px 0 rgb(255 0 131 \/ 20%);\n            border-radius: 5px;\n            margin-left: 40px;\n            font: 700 1rem \"Lato\",\"Helvetica Neue\",Arial,sans-serif;\n            position: relative;\n            text-decoration: none;\n            text-transform: uppercase;\n            overflow: hidden;\n            white-space: nowrap;\n            text-overflow: ellipsis;\n            user-select: none;\n            transition: background-color .3s,color .3s,border-color .3s;\n            background-color: #ff0083;\n            color: #fff!important;\n            border: 0;\n            box-shadow: 0 10px 40px -10px rgb(255 0 131 \/ 50%);\n            transform: translateY(0);\n            transition: all .2s,transform .5s;\n        }\n\n        .article-cta-button:hover {\n            background-color: #dc0073;\n            text-decoration: none!important;\n        }\n\n        \/* mobile tweaks *\/\n        @media only screen and (max-width: 768px){\n            #article-cta-block_611d212054ff0 {\n                font: 700 22px\/27px \"Lato\", \"Helvetica Neue\", Arial, sans-serif;\n                min-height: 220px;\n                height: 100%;\n                padding: 15px 15% 31px;\n                width: 100%;\n                display: flex;\n                flex-flow: column;\n                align-items: center;\n                justify-content: center;\n                padding: 15px 15px 15px 15px!important;\n            }\n\n            .article-cta-text {\n                display: flex;\n                align-items: center;\n                width: 100%;\n                max-width: 230px;\n                text-align: center;\n                margin-top: 0;\n            }\n\n            .article-cta-button {\n                margin-left: 0;\n            }\n        }\n        \n\n    <\/style>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p><br>So bookmark this page, grab your partner or friend, and start reclaiming conversation!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">52 questions to foster (or maintain) closeness and intimacy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1. What do you miss about being a kid?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2. If someone gave you enough money to start a business &#8211; no strings attached &#8211; what kind of business would you want to start and why?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3. Tell me about a relationship issue you&#8217;re having, and ask me for advice on how to fix it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4. If you could go back in time, what&#8217;s one piece of advice you&#8217;d give to your younger self?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">5. What\u2019s something you want to do in the next year that you\u2019ve never done before?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">6. Tell me three things that happened in the last week that you\u2019re thankful for.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">7. What\u2019s your favorite memory we\u2019ve shared together? Gimme as many details as possible.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">8. What <a href=\"\/blog\/hacking-happiness\/\">makes you happy<\/a>?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">9. Who or what has changed your life?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10. How do you best connect with others?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">11. Are you a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\/blog\/psychology-givers-takers-matchers-2\/\">giver, a taker, or a matcher<\/a>? Are there areas in your life where you act like one type, and other areas where you act like another? [Here&#8217;s the <a href=\"https:\/\/testyourself.psychtests.com\/testid\/2097\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Giver\/Taker Test<\/a>]<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">12. What are the five most important things on your bucket list?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">13. What matters most to you?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n<div id=\"article-cta-block_62e95c5fb0f49\" class=\"article-cta aligncenter\">\n    <p class=\"article-cta-text\">Here&#8217;s a question: Did you know Lemonade offers insurance for your stuff, your pet, and your car?<\/p>\n    <a class=\"article-cta-button content_article_cta\" data-track=\"content_article.cta.clicked\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\/onboarding\/1\">APPLY NOW<\/a>\n    <style type=\"text\/css\">\n        #article-cta-block_62e95c5fb0f49 {\n            height: 80px;\n            width: 100%;\n            max-width: 700px;\n            display: flex;\n            flex-flow: row;\n            align-items: center;\n            justify-content: space-around;\n            background: #F7F7F7;\n            border: 1px solid #ECECEC;\n            border-radius: 5px;\n            padding: 15px 15px 15px 30px!important;\n            cursor: pointer;\n        }\n\n        .article-cta-text {\n            width: 100%;\n            max-width: 450px;\n            display: flex;\n            font: 700 20px\/28px \"Lato\", \"Helvetica Neue\", Arial, sans-serif!important;\n            margin: 25px 0 25px!important;\n            text-align: left;\n        }\n\n        .article-cta-button {\n            display: flex;\n            align-items: center;\n            justify-content: center;\n            height: 47px;\n            width: 212px;\n            padding: 0px 25px;\n            box-shadow: 0 4px 8px 0 rgb(255 0 131 \/ 20%);\n            border-radius: 5px;\n            margin-left: 40px;\n            font: 700 1rem \"Lato\",\"Helvetica Neue\",Arial,sans-serif;\n            position: relative;\n            text-decoration: none;\n            text-transform: uppercase;\n            overflow: hidden;\n            white-space: nowrap;\n            text-overflow: ellipsis;\n            user-select: none;\n            transition: background-color .3s,color .3s,border-color .3s;\n            background-color: #ff0083;\n            color: #fff!important;\n            border: 0;\n            box-shadow: 0 10px 40px -10px rgb(255 0 131 \/ 50%);\n            transform: translateY(0);\n            transition: all .2s,transform .5s;\n        }\n\n        .article-cta-button:hover {\n            background-color: #dc0073;\n            text-decoration: none!important;\n        }\n\n        \/* mobile tweaks *\/\n        @media only screen and (max-width: 768px){\n            #article-cta-block_62e95c5fb0f49 {\n                font: 700 22px\/27px \"Lato\", \"Helvetica Neue\", Arial, sans-serif;\n                min-height: 220px;\n                height: 100%;\n                padding: 15px 15% 31px;\n                width: 100%;\n                display: flex;\n                flex-flow: column;\n                align-items: center;\n                justify-content: center;\n                padding: 15px 15px 15px 15px!important;\n            }\n\n            .article-cta-text {\n                display: flex;\n                align-items: center;\n                width: 100%;\n                max-width: 230px;\n                text-align: center;\n                margin-top: 0;\n            }\n\n            .article-cta-button {\n                margin-left: 0;\n            }\n        }\n        \n\n    <\/style>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">14. What\u2019s some of the best advice you\u2019ve ever gotten?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">15. What\u2019s your ideal weekend?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">16. If you could take a year-long paid sabbatical, what would you do?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">17. Who do you trust?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">18. What are five things you\u2019re thankful for right now?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">19. If a genie granted you three wishes right now, what would you wish for?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">20. What&#8217;s the craziest thing you&#8217;ve ever done and would you do it again?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">21. What\u2019s your favorite family tradition?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">22. If you could enter a time machine, what time period would you go to?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">23. What\u2019s your favorite quote?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">24. What do you value most in a friendship?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">25. Tell me your life story in four minutes, with as many deets as possible.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">26. What\u2019s something I\u2019ve done for you that you\u2019re grateful for?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">27. What do you want your legacy to be?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">28. Let\u2019s alternate sharing three positive characteristics of each other.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">29. What are your <a href=\"\/blog\/prioritize-future-self\/\">biggest goals<\/a> for this year? How will you work to achieve them?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">30. Where was your favorite place to go as a child and why did you love it there?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">31. Tell me about a challenge you\u2019ve been having at work or school, and ask me for advice on what to do about it.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">32. What was the first thing you bought with your own money?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n<div id=\"article-cta-block_62e95c9fb0f4a\" class=\"article-cta aligncenter\">\n    <p class=\"article-cta-text\">Ask yourself\u2014do you have coverage for the things that matter to you?<\/p>\n    <a class=\"article-cta-button content_article_cta\" data-track=\"content_article.cta.clicked\" href=\"https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\/onboarding\/1\">GET LEMONADE<\/a>\n    <style type=\"text\/css\">\n        #article-cta-block_62e95c9fb0f4a {\n            height: 80px;\n            width: 100%;\n            max-width: 700px;\n            display: flex;\n            flex-flow: row;\n            align-items: center;\n            justify-content: space-around;\n            background: #F7F7F7;\n            border: 1px solid #ECECEC;\n            border-radius: 5px;\n            padding: 15px 15px 15px 30px!important;\n            cursor: pointer;\n        }\n\n        .article-cta-text {\n            width: 100%;\n            max-width: 450px;\n            display: flex;\n            font: 700 20px\/28px \"Lato\", \"Helvetica Neue\", Arial, sans-serif!important;\n            margin: 25px 0 25px!important;\n            text-align: left;\n        }\n\n        .article-cta-button {\n            display: flex;\n            align-items: center;\n            justify-content: center;\n            height: 47px;\n            width: 212px;\n            padding: 0px 25px;\n            box-shadow: 0 4px 8px 0 rgb(255 0 131 \/ 20%);\n            border-radius: 5px;\n            margin-left: 40px;\n            font: 700 1rem \"Lato\",\"Helvetica Neue\",Arial,sans-serif;\n            position: relative;\n            text-decoration: none;\n            text-transform: uppercase;\n            overflow: hidden;\n            white-space: nowrap;\n            text-overflow: ellipsis;\n            user-select: none;\n            transition: background-color .3s,color .3s,border-color .3s;\n            background-color: #ff0083;\n            color: #fff!important;\n            border: 0;\n            box-shadow: 0 10px 40px -10px rgb(255 0 131 \/ 50%);\n            transform: translateY(0);\n            transition: all .2s,transform .5s;\n        }\n\n        .article-cta-button:hover {\n            background-color: #dc0073;\n            text-decoration: none!important;\n        }\n\n        \/* mobile tweaks *\/\n        @media only screen and (max-width: 768px){\n            #article-cta-block_62e95c9fb0f4a {\n                font: 700 22px\/27px \"Lato\", \"Helvetica Neue\", Arial, sans-serif;\n                min-height: 220px;\n                height: 100%;\n                padding: 15px 15% 31px;\n                width: 100%;\n                display: flex;\n                flex-flow: column;\n                align-items: center;\n                justify-content: center;\n                padding: 15px 15px 15px 15px!important;\n            }\n\n            .article-cta-text {\n                display: flex;\n                align-items: center;\n                width: 100%;\n                max-width: 230px;\n                text-align: center;\n                margin-top: 0;\n            }\n\n            .article-cta-button {\n                margin-left: 0;\n            }\n        }\n        \n\n    <\/style>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">33. What are you curious about?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">34. What are your top three strengths? Which strengths do you look for in a friend or partner?&nbsp;[Take the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.viacharacter.org\/character-strengths\">VIA Strengths Test<\/a>]<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">35. Name four things we have in common.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">36. What are your favorite three topics to talk about?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">37. What\u2019s your earliest memory?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">38. How do you express gratitude towards others? Give me an example.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">39. What are the top three ways to express your love in friendships and in relationships? (Here&#8217;s the <a href=\"https:\/\/5lovelanguages.com\/quizzes\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Love Languages Quiz<\/a>)<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">40. In what situations do you feel most comfortable sharing your perspective?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">41. Who\u2019s someone you really admire?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">42. How do you like to be comforted when you\u2019re upset? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">43. What would you do on your \u201cperfect\u201d day?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">44. In 10 years, how would you like to describe your life?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">45. If you had $100,000 to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\/giveback\">give away to any cause<\/a>, which cause would you choose and why?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">46. Where are the top three places you want to travel to some day, and why?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">47. If you could have any job you wanted, that would it be?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">48. Tell me about a day you had that you\u2019ll never forget.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">49. If there were 26 hours in a day, what would you do more of?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">50. Is there something you\u2019ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven\u2019t you done it yet?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">51. What moments or events during your childhood shaped who you are now?<a id=\"methodology\"><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">52. What do you think about most?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><b>The methodology behind these questions <\/b><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>These questions will help you and your loved one dive into deep and meaningful topics that are proven to enhance intimacy. But which topics are scientifically proven to bring you closer to another person?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here\u2019s a look at 6 central ideas behind our 52 questions, and why these topics bring us closer together:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Gratitude<\/strong><br>According to psychologist <a href=\"https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/why_gratitude_is_good#gsc.tab=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span class=\"s1\">Robert Emmons<\/span><\/a><span class=\"s1\">,<\/span> gratitude is good for our bodies, minds, and relationships. Whether you discuss what you\u2019re thankful for, or express appreciation for your partner\u2019s good deeds, gratitude deepens our relationship with others.&nbsp;Why? Gratitude does a few things: it establishes trust and intimacy, creates higher relationship satisfaction, and encourages you and your loved one to give even more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here&#8217;s how it works: when you do something your partner is grateful for, it creates norm of reciprocity, and inspires your partner to do something nice in return. With this chain reaction, you and your loved one will feel even more gratitude towards each other, which will make your relationship even stronger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Nostalgia<\/strong><br>Speaking of gratitude, reminiscing on past events is a sure way to inspire feelings of appreciation. A study by psychologist Clay Routledge found that recounting shared moments between you and your loved one increases feelings of social connectedness, and even makes you more supportive and considerate of each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To dig even deeper into nostalgia, we suggest talking about your experiences growing up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cDiscussing each other\u2019s childhoods can really build an intimate bond between partners. Expressing how you felt as a child and things that hurt you when you were young gives your partner real insight into what shaped you as an adult,\u201d <span class=\"s1\">said<\/span> relationship guru <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bustle.com\/articles\/141373-20-conversations-that-build-intimacy\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Rob Alex<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>\u201cThat understanding of how you felt in good times and bad times as a kid really allows your partner to see your vulnerabilities, and can evoke deep feelings and connections with each other.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Giving (and asking for) advice<\/strong><br>Giving advice is one of the most powerful forms of engagement between two people, according to Professor Julia Glazer. When you advise a loved one on a challenge they&#8217;re facing, it signifies that you\u2019re willing to be honest to them, and that you care about them. Combined, these two signals communicate an extremely high level of trust, which creates a deeper level of closeness (and trust us, <a href=\"\/blog\/lemonade-proves-trust-pays-off-big-time\/\">trust pays off<\/a>). (<span class=\"s1\">Psychology Today<\/span>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On the other side of it, asking for advice and expressing vulnerability also fosters intimacy. \u201cOne key pattern associated with the development of a close relationship is sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure,\u201d wrote Psychologist Arthur Aron in his study <i>An Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness.<\/i><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Sharing<\/strong><br>When you share something with your partner &#8211; whether it\u2019s a deep secret, a dream, or an aspiration &#8211; something crazy happens in your brain. Your pleasure centers light up like a Christmas tree, and a hormone called oxytocin is released. Another name for oxytocin? The \u2018love hormone,\u2019 because it plays a huge role in forming bonds between two people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Several new studies show that the release of oxytocin makes us more sympathetic, supportive, and open with our feelings. In fact, research conducted by couple therapist <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC3831552\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Beate Ditzen<\/a> found that oxytocin release helps loved ones manage conflict more effectively; when it&#8217;s released, women show a decrease in a social <a href=\"\/blog\/easy-ways-to-destress\/\">stress<\/a> hormone, whereas men become better at communication, make more eye-contact, and become more open about their feelings &#8211; all essential behaviors for resolving conflict peacefully.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Learning each other\u2019s preferences<\/strong><br>If we know what our loved ones like and dislike, we&#8217;ll better understand how to be a good companion for them. This may seem obvious, yet many of us neglect to ask our partners about their preferences point blank. By asking which activities they enjoy most, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.zumper.com\/blog\/moving-in-with-a-significant-other\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">where or how they want to live<\/a>, and what they value in their friendships with others, understanding their perspective will help us become better partners.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Similarly, learning how your loved one likes to be comforted when times are tough is a valuable conversation to have. \u201cThe one conversation couples can have in order to build intimacy is to ask: How can I help you when you\u2019re suffering? Or, how would you like me to react when you\u2019re in pain?\u201d <span class=\"s1\">says<\/span> clinical hypnotherapist <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bustle.com\/articles\/141373-20-conversations-that-build-intimacy\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Rachel Astharte<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Commonalities<\/strong><br>It\u2019s no coincidence that dating sites link people based on what they have in common &#8211; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lemonade.com\/blog\/social-science-coronavirus\/\">social science<\/a> tells us that commonalities keep relationship strong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><span class=\"s1\">According to<\/span> psychologist <a href=\"https:\/\/theconversation.com\/why-opposites-rarely-attract-74873\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Donn Byrne<\/a>, we feel more connected to people who hold similar attitudes as us. In fact, a review of 313 studies with over 35,000 participants found that similarity is a very strong predictor of attraction and connection in relationships. Why? 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